That’s not a very pretty thought but its’ true. How often have you abused someone or something when you are angry and that ugly anger comes out? Anger can come in many ways but whether it’s jealousy, hate, being afraid of not having enough, wanting to control everything and everyone, or any other fear based emotion, it’s all the same energy and it’s all ugly.

Webster’s Dictionary defines “abuse” as the follow – "To use wrongly or improperly. To treat in a harmful, injurious or offensive way. To speak insultingly, harshly and unjustly to or about. To commit indecent assault upon."

Well, folks that pretty much says it all. If you hurt a person or an animal with words, a physical attack or do anything in a harmful way, which would include withholding food, water and shelter, its abuse.

The energy you put out will come back to you – it’s the law of the Universe. This falls under the law of “for every action there is an equal reaction.” If all of us could see the fireball of energy hate and abuse sends out, and then realize it’s going to come back to us, it would scare the hell out of us. None of us would ever be mean or hateful again.

Step back from any situation that’s makes you mad and try to see what is really making you mad. I think you’ll find that it’s always control that makes you abusive. Control over a situation that you have no control over. Control over someone or something. Control is a horrible thing to try and control because you can’t control everything that’s going to happen in this life.

Before you get abusive, take control in another way. Walk away or step back from the situation and think about it. Usually there’s a lesson to be learned and even if you can’t find the lesson, just walking away will help you gain control of your emotions.

Always remember, “Abuse is the fear of losing control, but if you’re abusive, you’ve already lost control.”

Shirley Scott